I’m at a bit of a crossroads in my life. I have recently quit my job and moved to a new city (again) to try to find opportunity and happiness. Since making the move, I have been experiencing anxiety and uncertainty. It’s not the first time I’ve experienced these emotions but it’s never a welcome feeling.
I’ve always been one to follow my gut and do what makes me happy, but as I get older (and have more talks with my family about my future) I worry more about what’s in store for me 5 or 10 years down the road. One thing that worries me is that I will turn out like my dad; over 50, unemployed and still living at home.
I have come to realize that every decision that I have made has led me to where I am today and I wonder, have I made the right decisions recently? Should I have waited until my lease was up before moving? What if I had not quit my job in Ottawa? What am I going to do about my debt?
Are these some of the same decisions my dad made when he was my age?
After watching the following Ted Talks video featuring psychologist Honey Langcaster James, I have been inspired to answer these questions and come up with a solution; a life solution to figure out what is most important to me and what I need to do to achieve these goals.
She presents a simple 7-step solution with a clever acronym:
Begin with your happy ending
Look, listen and learn
Equip your environment
First off, I think it’s a waste of time to dwell on the past and hold onto regrets. I don’t regret moving. I don’t regret moving the first time either and studying a near-pointless subject in college (Ski Resort Operations and Management) that has led me to debt. It’s that program that brought me to Whistler and gave me some great opportunities during my four years there. It’s also the place where I met some of my best friends and made some great memories. Now living in Toronto, I just have to be patient to find a job and get a routine in place before I can shake off this anxiety; the same anxiety that I felt during that first move.
I will analyze my debt more closely and come up with a plan to reduce that debt. In order to do that, I need to find the right job(s) to pay the bills and live within my earnings (I like to think that I am older and wiser and have learned from my past mistakes) all while paying off debt first and saving second. I’m not sure what I’ll be saving for, but I’ve got some time to figure that out.
At the same time, I don’t want to overwork myself and need to make time for my hobbies; skateboarding, photography, and playing music. Of course, those cost money as well.
It seems I have a lot to think about.
Take the time to watch the video and really think about the 7 steps presented by Ms James. Maybe this will help to believe in yourself and figure out a life solution as well.
Feel free to share your goals and action plan in the comments.
Let’s aim big and go far.